Strength And Wisdom

You clearly see it from outside, just as the few others she’s allowed to see into her life obviously do. And you have been watching good women struggle with leaving terrible “men”. And honestly that’s become baggage to an extent.

But you know that feeling too. And you know how difficult it is. It’s part of life though, and once you get to a certain point – several years in – it’s important to remember the Definition of Insanity.

Do what you’ve always done; get what you’ve always got.

But there’s something more in play here, and you know it.

This is a toxic relationship. The kind that is damaging and where escape is difficult because she has literally become dependent on the emotional manipulation and abuse. Like Stockholm syndrome, but worse.

You don’t know what it’s called but you sure as hell know what it is. When you can’t even begin to list just what you know he has done to her, and yet somehow she fixates on the tiniest detail so she can blame herself and absolve him.

That is what emotional abuse looks like.

There’s nothing more for her to learn. She knows what he does and that he’s never going to change – he doesn’t care enough about her to change.

It’s plain as day – even to her. A passionate woman tormented by what you can only call malevolent spirits that constantly weaken her resolve when it comes to abandoning things that need to be abandoned. Albert. Mike. The Art Teacher. Strife.

And now he’s even been physically violent to her. There is no future there, save for a downward spiral that will destroy her.

You know she has it in her. But this apparently has a stronger hold on her than even ‘Albert’. And there’s nothing you can do do, but keep praying every single day.

He will destroy himself and will not change course. If she stays with him, she will go down with the ship, and suffer more each day in the process.

Lord, help her fight what she doesn’t see. That is what is blinding her. Time away from him Will eventually save her.

Knowing what she must do and doing it are two separate things. She’s known for over two years.

Give her strength.

This is killing her. Starting with her dreams. Then her hopes. Her happiness. Her feeling of safety. Her job. Her Financial security. And it’s not going to stop getting worse.

This beautiful woman is being Destroyed; she knows it and is barely able to care. The longer she stays, the more damage will be done to her.

Give her Strength and Wisdom, Lord. Take what you need from me if you must. Give her strength and wisdom.