Stand Tall, Dammit…

…and shut up. Yeah, you detect something. Good for you. She’s only screaming it as loud as she can without saying anything. Wow, you’re a veritable mind reader, lolz.

Look – The truth is that you really do mean what you’ve said to her. You want her to find herself. Work on herself without some guy causing problems for her. “Be single and find wisdom.” And yeah, you were right.

Well here it is, so shut the eff up. Be her friend, because by your own admission… anything else is what you want her to avoid…

Yeah, yeah your heart, blah blah. Truth of the matter is if you are to ever have something with her, you want it to be for The Duration – not just ‘another guy’. The only way that can ever happen is if she goes through this growth that she needs.

Selfish jackass. Yeah you want to have it on your terms because you trust yourself, know you care for her, and know the goodness that fills your soul and bursts out of your smile.

Yeah you’ve just got God’s love just bursting out of your eyes, smile, and asshole. Good for you! 😇

Well guess what, genius… the girl don’t work the way you work, and despite naïve dreams, this is just not going to work with you showing her your world and her magically inspired to share your path.

I mean she’s doing what you want her to do – be single. So just shut up. Yeah, yeah, after two weeks ago? What you shared??? (clumsy as it was on your part after so long)… Your heart was going to spin.

Aaaand…okay. It’s good and spun, and even Ray Charles can read the tea leaves right now. So stop thinking about your damn self.

Be there for her the way she needs you to be. She knows how you feel. You can tell she still enjoys your company. She’s not upset at you, so stop being paranoid and keep it that way.

What she doesn’t need… is romantic bullshit. Yours or anyone else’s.

You told her your biggest fear was losing her. And that’s true. But probably not in the way she thinks.

You love who she is. And you’re really terrified she’s going to change. Outgrow you in some way. I mean this is “going into the hardwiring” stuff…

The ultimate paradox, lolz… The one thing you know deep down she needs most – to grow and find herself – scares you the most.

Well guess what… Time to find out if you’re full of shit or not.

Your feelings for her supposedly transcend simple romantic love. You see her as family. What she calls a soul group. Her happiness is more important to you than your own.

So be there for her; what she needs. At the very least don’t be what doesn’t freaking help, lolz 😂

Yeah you want to be with her, but you know that if she somehow chose to be with you without choosing to be single for a while…. it’d be doomed.

And maybe she’ll grow in a different direction and you won’t have a chance anyway. So suck it up.

You’ve already told her how annoying it is to hear her say “I have to do things my way”…

…But this time she is absolutely right and screw you if you can’t see it.

Be family for her. Not some whiny guy that even in passing could remind her of the one she just left.

You say you want her to have a good man. So prove it.

She won’t forget your feelings. Stop reminding her. She needs you in a different way now. Maybe forever. But at least for now.

Have faith in her. In the good woman you know her to be. That’s what she needs right now. Not your baggage.

Stand with her.

Trust her.

And most of all… Don’t let her down. 🙂

Learn from your own words that you left for her. You meant them for her no matter what you would ever be to her, even if nothing at all.

Now man your post.

Dismissed.