Truth

You are under no obligation to hurt for no reason.

You are under no obligation to pretend there is no problem when there is one, and it hurts you.

You are under no obligation to be there for someone on a conditional basis – defined by either one of you.

You are under no obligation to sacrifice your well-bring in the form of bottled-up stress, for someone else to demand to ignore it.

And most importantly – no one is obligated to any of this regarding you, either.

Blame yourself for the actions that you have committed – but only those actions. Hold others accountable for the actions they have committed.

Do not ignore wrongs committed against you, regardless of the wrongs you may have committed. If forgiveness is asked, grant it; just as you would hope forgiveness was granted to you.

But in either case, do not forget.

Do not forget that to ask for forgiveness also means that you strive to avoid committing the same wrongs. And that means taking steps to find ways of stopping them – and each of us must see clearly our own lives, faults, and truths before we can do the same for others.

There is no more greater virtue in this world than Truth. 

When you don’t know what to do, and you feel locked and trapped by your feelings, you must think outside the box, and find another way of looking at things so you can see the truth for what it is.

Each of us is our own worst enemy. We want what we can’t have, and the more we struggle, the worse we make it for ourselves, and the more it hurts.

We are under no obligation regarding each other in life but what we choose; our obligation first and foremost must be to Truth.

Otherwise, we don’t deserve self-respect, much less happiness. And without true Self-Respect – not its evil twin Arrogance – we can never have what we want. Because what we want doesn’t exist.

Either place your trust in God, or in yourself. In Reality, or Fantasy. In Truth, or in Falseness. In Selfishness, or Self-Respect.

You can’t control the world. If you haven’t figured that out by now, it is your responsibility to find a way to figure it out. That requires you to stop making the same mistakes and start listening to others who can help you.

It’s not like your problems are unique. There are others who understand what it is like to feel trapped by one’s feelings, and to know how they can hold one’s life completely in check.

If you want to be there for someone you claim you care about… you must be right with yourself first. 

Because you are the only one you can change. 

Be true, or be wrong.